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Why Does My Cat Lick Me? 

Learn what it means when your cat gives you sandpaper kisses. 

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Cats have many endearing behaviors that sometimes surprise us. Though we might think dogs are the resident licking champions, any Cat Parent knows cats lick, too! Here are a few reasons why your cat may lick, and how you can intervene if it becomes a nuisance.

What Does It Mean When A Cat Licks You?

When a cat licks you, it’s usually a form of communication. There isn’t one single reason behind it — it could be a mix of instinct, emotions, and learned behavior.

Your Cat Is Showing Affection

Cats lick each other to seal their bond. If your cat licks you once or twice like a kiss, it could be a way they’re showing affection. It’s a sign they’re comfortable with you and love you.

Your Cat Is “Grooming” You

If your cat licks you over and over again, it might mean they’re attempting to teach you how to groom yourself (don’t take it personally!). Tongue baths are something kittens learn from their mothers as a way to get clean or find comfort.

Your Cat Is Scent-Marking You

While it’s common for cats to mark their territory by urinating on things, licking also distributes pheromones to indicate “I want everyone to know this is mine.” If your feline friend licks you, they may be marking you as part of their pack. If other cats sometimes shy away from you, it’s possible they smell that you belong to another cat.

Your Cat Is Curious About Your Smell or Taste

Your cat may lick your hair because they like a particular taste or scent in it, but try not to encourage this behavior — human hair and hair products can be dangerous for cats.

Your Cat Is Seeking Attention

Sometimes it’s as simple as trying to get your attention. Your cat might have picked up on the fact that licking you gets an instant reaction, and cats crave attention (when they’re in the mood for it).

Your Cat Is Self-Soothing

Licking can be very comforting for cats, so they might do it when they’re feeling anxious, stressed, or want to relax. Licking releases hormones called endorphins, which makes your cat feel happy.

How to Stop A Cat From Licking You

Though your cat may be trying to comfort you, sometimes being licked may feel uncomfortable or even hurt. This is because a cat’s tongue has tiny, backward-facing barbs called papillae. Papillae move through a cat’s fur like a comb when they lick — they have about the same hardness as human fingernails, which can make their tongues feel like sandpaper. 

To discourage your cat from licking you: 

  • Don’t talk, pet, or engage with them when they lick 
  • Move to another part of the room
  • Put a barrier between you and your cat
  • Distract them with their favorite toys

Frequently Asked Questions

When a cat licks your face, it’s often a sign of affection. Even if they’re not grooming you, licking mimics that behavior and shows that your cat cares for you on a deeper level. Try to discourage licking around your mouth and eyes though, especially if you use skincare products or cosmetics (which can be harmful to cats), or if your cat has been outside.

This can be a sign that your cat has had enough interaction and is asking for space. If they give you a gentle nibble, they could also be saying they want to play.

Cats often lick feet because they detect new scents. It’s usually harmless grooming or curiosity, but if your cat frequently focuses on your feet, it might mean they’re bored and it’s time for a new toy!

Yes, in most cases occasional licking is perfectly normal. Always avoid letting your cat lick cuts or open wounds, or places where skin or haircare products have been applied. If their licking becomes compulsive or excessive, try to stop their urges by not rewarding the behavior or distracting them with a favorite toy.

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